Privacy and Security Tips
Your safety is our utmost priority all the time.
Our administration ensures that every profile put up at Kalyanam is screened for
irrelevant and/or inappropriate content.We also have strict abuse-prevention and
reporting systems for those that try to do get through our screening systems.
However, in ensuring your safety & privacy, we're limited to actions that are within our control. Therefore, it is necessary for you to exercise some simple precautions for your privacy & for a safe and secure experience.
Here are some simple guidelines YOU can follow to protect your privacy.
- Guard your anonymity
- Start slow – Use emails initially
- Request for a photo
- Meet only after you tell your parents
- Watch for warning signs
- Beware of money scams
Our system of anonymous contacting (expressing interest, accepting/declining), and private messaging (Communicate section) is to ensure that your identity is protected until YOU decide to reveal it.
Remember that you are in control of your online experience at all times. You can remain completely anonymous until YOU choose not to.
Don't include your personal contact information like email address, home address, telephone numbers, place of work or any other identifying information in your initial messages.
Don't send contact information until your instincts tell you that this is someone you can trust. It's okay to take your time.
Trust your instincts and start by sharing important information and communicating solely via our mail system.
Look for odd behavior or inconsistencies. Serious people will respect your space and allow you to take your time.
Ask a friend to read the emails you receive - an unbiased observer can spot warning signs you missed.
Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for personal information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it.
A photo will give you a good idea of the person's appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling.
You can use the Photo Request option on Kalyanam. Since Kalyanam offers free upload services to its members, there’s no reason someone shouldn’t be able to provide you a photo.
In fact, it’s best to view several images of someone in various settings: casual, formal, indoor and outdoors. If all you hear are excuses about why you can't see a photo, consider that he or she has something to hide.
When you choose to meet offline it is a good idea to try and include either or both of your families. But if you trust the person enough to meet alone always tell a friend or your family where you are going and when you will return.
When you decide to meet face to face with someone for the first time, choose a public place (such as a restaurant / cafe) at a time when many people are around and ensure your own transportation to and fro.
For the first meeting it is always good not to meet the other person alone. Take a friend or relative along and ask him/her to do the same.
In case you do decide to meet him/her alone leave the name, address and telephone number of the person you are going to meet with your friend or family member. Take a cellular phone along with you.
Never arrange for your prospective match to pick you up or drop you at home.
Do not go to a secluded place or a movie alone at the first meeting.
Watching for warning signs and acting upon it is the surest way to avoid an uncomfortable situation.
Ask a lot of questions and watch for inconsistencies. This will help you detect liars & cons, and it will help you find out if you're compatible.
Pay attention to displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Acting in a resentful manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments, or any physically inappropriate behavior are all warning signs.
Involve your family or your close friends in your search for a life partner and do not take a decision unilaterally.
Don't ignore the following behavior specially if it is without an acceptable explanation:
Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc.
Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions
Appears significantly different in person from his or her online persona
Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members
Watch out for money scams. There are just too many con artists and scam artists around the world, and they are everywhere.
Be wary of those who try to ask money from you for whatever reason. But it would be safer to cut off the communication. Remember a genuine person will not ask you for money in any circumstance. If someone asks you for money, use common sense and never give in to such requests
In case someone asks you for money report the situation to us.
Take all the time you need to decide on a trustworthy person and pay careful attention along the way. Be responsible about romance, and don’t fall for the oldest con tricks of people who shower love and affection at the first instance and disappear later.
Don’t become prematurely close to someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online.
Using your own good judgment is your best bet because ultimately you are responsible for your personal experience. Trust your instincts and then move ahead with the right person!
If you do have an unpleasant experience you can always report it to the authorities.We serve only for the people who are serious about the marriage, All of your actions including IM messages, Mail messages are recorded in our system, We will fully support Police (Cyber Crime Investigation Cell)